The 24 Things To Learn In Your 20’s If You Want To Get Ahead

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2017 has been a huge year for me as it’s the first year that I’ve ever seriously chased my goals.

I’ve learnt so much and since its a couple of days till my 24th Birthday (03/12 – send me a Happy Birthday!) I’ve put together a list of all the things I’ve learnt over the past year.

These are the lessons I think everyone needs to learn in order to get ahead in life.

In no order.

 

1. No One Cares

People have a huge fear of judgment when deciding whether they should chase their goals. Whether it’s starting a new business, starting a blog, posting motivation quotes everyday on Instagram. Whatever it is, people are scared that they’ll get judged.

I’m going to tell you something that might shock you…. NO ONE CARES!

There is absolutely no one out there waiting for you to chase your goals, just so they can bad mouth you to other people. You’re not on some pedestal where everyone is watching your every move.

Stop worrying what other people think and take the leap.

 

2. Things Take Less Time To Do Than People Say

People always want the most time they can get to get the smallest amount of work done.

For example, I’ve been told it takes someone up to 1 week to write and edit a 1 000 word article, when it takes me about 1.5 hours.

The reason is if you give someone 1 week to do something, they will take 1 week to do it. The same goes if you give them a few hours, they will get it done in a few hours.

If an activity can’t be done in a hour, break it down so it can be.

 

3. You Need a Vision Board

A vision board is a board that has everything that motivates you on it. You use it when you lose sight of your goals and is a place to hold your life’s ‘wish list’, which is a list of things you want out of life (paper in the bottom right, if you can’t read it I’d be happy to send it to you).

Here’s a picture of mine as an example.

vision board

 

4. Don’t Compromise Your Goals For Someone Else’s Happiness

You weren’t put on this earth to make other people happy. Do want ever you want to do and if something gets in your way, move it.

If you want to miss birthday parties, cancel dinner plans or not help your friend move houses because you want to work on your goals then do it. You have better things to do with your time than making sure that everyone around you likes you.

But by all means, if you want to spend your time helping someone or making other people happy, go for it. It takes a special kind of person who is willing to give up their time for someone else but don’t feel guilty if you don’t want to.

 

5. Don’t Hide Who You Are

If there’s one thing I’ve noticed over the past year, it’s that people respond better to the real you. When I first started writing, because I was in the professional/ motivational space I thought I had to create a corporate image. The second I stopped doing that and started being myself, I saw dramatic progress.

Whether you love cartoons, crazy haircuts or wearing funny shirts make sure you show it. People can smell bullshit from a mile away and they won’t connect with a fake.

My Instagram is full of Disney and of cartoons. Don’t hide who you are.

 

6. Read Everyday And Replace Tv with books

The amount you can learn from books is insane.

I used to hate reading and would never do it. Now I average a book every 1 to 2 weeks and have pretty much brought out Booktopia’s development section.

I have been able to apply what I’ve read from books to my own life so many times that i’ve lost count.

On that, TV is the biggest killer to any motivation. Unless you’re watching documentaries, you are getting nothing back for the time spent watching. Replace that time with books. I’m not saying that you have to get rid of TV but just limit to at most half an hour a day.

 

7. Plan Your Day The Night Before

In the last 15 minutes of everyday, you should plan your next day.

This is really important to eliminating procrastination as from the second you wake up you know exactly what you need to do.

If you don’t, I guarantee you will spend the first few hours trying to plan out your day and before you know it, it’s 11:00am.

Before I started planing my day the night before I could spend all the way up to 2 hours figuring out what I wanted to do that day. If you do it the night before and if it’s you’re last task, you’ll want to get it done as quick as possible. I bet it will take you around 2 minutes.

 

8. Make Your Bed Every Morning

If you create one habit, this should be it.

Making your bed NEEDS to be the very first thing you do in the morning. For 2 reasons:

  1. The first thing you do for the day is accomplish a task, setting you up for a successful day.
  2. If you have a shit day, you will always have a nicely made bed to come home to.

 

9. You Can Make New Friends

In order to get ahead you have to move on from toxic friends. You are the product of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so make sure they’re good.

Pick people who not only make up your weaknesses but also compliment your strengths.

You also have to remember that just because you’re friends with someone now does not mean you have to be their friend forever, you have every right to move on.

 

10. Invest In Shares

I don’t have savings. None! All my money is in shares and I have 2 reasons for this:

  1. Its a great place to hold you’re money as you can expect a 10% increase every year. Which has been true for me so far.
  2.  I don’t have quick access to extra money. It takes about 3 days to sell shares and then another 4 to transfer it to my bank account meaning I can’t quickly access my money. This makes going over my weekly budget a lot more difficult.

Since I’m writing about shares, I’ll give you a really quick overview of how I choose companies to invest in. I look for one of 2 things in a company:

  1. Do I believe in the CEO? If I do, I’ll probably invest.
  2. Do I love the product?

People may say this is a very amateur way of investing. What about profit/loss, projected sales, expected revenue, blah, blah, blah. Well firstly, you can’t say something is stupid if it’s working and secondly, I’m investing for the long-term not short-term.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Email me here

Shares

Some of my current picks.

 

11. ‘Fear Of Failure’ Is Stupid

If you’re scared of failing then don’t do anything new.

Failure is always going to happen, no matter what you do but you have to focus on the ‘bounce back’, not the failure itself. Everyone who has ever done anything worth while has failed. Take Thomas Edison for example, he failed at creating the light bulb 1,000 times before he got it right.

 

12. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask

People have a huge fear that something really bad is going to happen because they asked a question or asked for something they wanted, well let me put this to bed.

The absolute worse thing that could happen is they either ignore you or say ‘no’. The best case is they say ‘yes’.

There is absolutely no harm in asking.

 

13. To Get Ahead You Have To Sacrifice

You have to make big sacrifices in order to chase your goals. If you think you can keep going, without making any changes, you’re in for a rude shock.

Sacrifice is a part of the process. Be prepared to give up; parties, friends, sleep ins, days off, Tv, early nights – the list goes on.

 

14. Feeling Unmotivated – Listen to a Motivational Youtube Video

Just from listening to motivational talks and videos while I’m doing work, I find that I get a lot more done and can work for a lot longer than if I was just listening to music.

Here are a couple of my favourites:

 

15. Mentors Make All The Difference

If you pick your mentors right, they’ll be able to guide you to make choices that will get you closer to your goals. They will also be able to give you opportunities that you wouldn’t have had otherwise. For example; putting you in front of investors, getting you jobs and giving you the opportunity to learn from their successes and failures.

When picking your mentors make sure they’re in your industry and are people you look up to.

Also, remember point number 12.

 

16. You Can Never Overdress

No matter what you’re going to, you can never be overdressed but you can be underdressed.

When in doubt, put on a suit or just put on a suit regardless. It’s a great way to boost confidence.

 

17. Its Better To Have 1 Good Friend Than It Is To Have Heaps Of Friends

I’ve come to realise that it’s better to have one or a couple really good friends rather than having a lot of friends.

If you’ve decided to follow your goals and made big sacrifices, you’ll actually very quickly see who these couple of good friends are.

Value them and treat them well.

 

18. No One Can Multitask, Not Even Girls

Anyone who honestly thinks they can multitask is a complete idiot. I don’t know who you’re trying to convince but no one is falling for it.

You cannot do multiple things at once. You cannot talk to someone on the phone, talk to someone in person and brush your teeth at the same time. You just can’t.

If you’re doing 1 thing you can expect to do it at 100%. If you’re doing 2 then each one can be done to 50% of your capability. There is NO exceptions.

Doing 2 things at once just gives you the possibility of failing 2 things.

Stop thinking you can multitask and start focusing on 1 thing at a time.

 

19. You Can Learn To Write In About 2 Weeks

If i remember correctly, I failed English in high school. I have always been horrible at it, especially spelling and grammar. Over the year I’ve come to realise if you apply yourself, it’s very easy to learn.

When I write, I use a technique my father taught me:

  1. Write the post, article, story, etc.
  2. Edit it once – only looking at how you can improve the sentences.
  3. Edit it a second time – only looking for spelling and grammar mistakes. At this stage read every single word out individually and only focus on the word you’re saying. In other words, don’t read ahead.
  4. Read it out loud once more

This process adds about 1.5 hours but will ensure your writing is the best it can be.

 

20. Excuses NEVER Fix Anything

No matter how good your excuse is, the world will keep moving. No matter how sick you are, no one is going to stop for you.

An excuse only every sounds good to the person saying them.

For every excuse you make there’s someone out there working hard to reach the same goal you are and as soon as you realise this you’ll start making progress.

Stop making excuses, if you’re not going to die then you’ll be okay.

 

21. Someone Hates You

No matter what you do or who you are, someone is always going to hate you. Stop worrying about it and focus on the people/things that matter.

Take it as a compliment knowing that these people think about you enough to hate you. It means you’re doing something worth while and they’re jealous.

 

22. Manners Go A Long Way

Whether it’s the person who makes your coffee or the guy at the petrol station, make a habit of saying ‘Thank You’.

Manners go a long way and sometimes can even strike up new opportunities. Don’t be the dickhead who thinks they’re better than everyone else because you’re not… no matter who you are.

 

23. Wake Up Early

I wake up at 6:00am every single morning no matter what day it is. Which gives me at least an hour extra on everyone else.

Get up at 6:00am at the latest and you’ll be amazed with what you can accomplish.

 

24. Consistency Is All You Need

Finally, if you do something for long enough you will eventually see results. It doesn’t matter what it is or how far out the idea is.

I’m a firm believer that anything can be done, if you stick to it. The reason people don’t achieve their goals is because they give up too early.

 

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2 comments

  1. Ray

    I believe that in 6 you meant replace TV with books. Or was this to wake up the reader? Thanks for the list. Very good advice. Without diminishing your points, I would add to always respect other people, and to do everything that you can to support the success of others without being concerned with getting credit. It will come back to you 1,000 times from every direction and you will rise together.

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