Complaining never fixes anything.
It might be an obvious statement, but yet so many people use complaining as an alternative to acting. No matter how much you complain, the issue will never be resolved.
Complaining is something you need to conquer. Complaining about challenges in your life will only guarantee that nothing will be resolved.
It shows that a person is not willing to make a change, that they’re not willing to go that extra mile. If you truly want to chase your goals eliminating the need to complain is essential. By removing the need to complain, you will be more entitled to take on the certain thing you’re complaining about.
The challenges you face should be seen as hurdles on your journey to success. You can either spend your time complaining about them or you react and keep moving forward.
People say it’s easier said than done. Well that right there is a great example of complaining. People often use ‘It’s too hard’ as an excuse. It might be hard to change the things that cause you trouble, but it’s never impossible. If your issue is you’re job, yes it might be hard to get a new one, but it’s not impossible. It might be hard to get a high distinction in an exam, but it’s not impossible. Everything is achievable, if you stop complaining and start acting.
Another common complaint that you might use is ‘I hate Mondays’. If you’re truly chasing your goals, if you’re truly giving 100%, then it shouldn’t matter what day of the week it is. If it’s a Tuesday, you should be working to achieve your goals. If it’s a Saturday, you should be working towards your goals. If it’s Monday you should be working towards your goals. In order to achieve you must be willing to sacrifice and that includes your weekends. You can’t work hard during the week and then completely switch off on the weekends. You have to work, 7 days a week, in order to achieve. Mark Cuban said “Work like there is someone working 24 hours a day to take it away from you” This means you can’t stop chasing your goals because when you stop, you fall behind.
I love Mondays because it means that I get to improve on the previous week and get that much closer to my goals. If you hate Mondays, it’s time to change. Whatever is making you hate Mondays, you need to eliminate it from your life. No matter how big or how hard it will be to change. It needs to go.
There are 2 things you should do instead of complaining and they should be treated as a 2-step process:
Nothing good ever comes from complaining.
If you ever feel the need to complain, don’t. Just don’t. There are 2 good reasons for this:
- If you have time to complain you have time to change. Every second you spend complaining about something is time that should be used to fix the problem.
- No one cares. No matter how engaged they seem or how well they are listening, once you have finished whining, they will never think about it again.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you genuinely wanted to listen to someone whine and complain? Of course not! So don’t be that person who whines and complains.
Identify the issue and start taking steps to fix it. Whatever the challenge, no matter how big or small, it can always be fixed. If your challenge is financial, start taking steps to fix it, my post ‘Turn Your Dreams Into Goals’ can help you with that. Your challenge might be career related. It might seem like a big issue but if you keep persistent in your search you will find a better job, one that you actually look forward to turning up to. Every challenge can be overcome with persistence and motivation. If you want it, you can get it.
In saying this, there’s one aspect I haven’t mentioned and that’s complaining about things you can’t change. The point is in that sentence, ‘things you can’t change’. If you can’t change it, what’s the point in complaining about it? If it’s raining, you can’t change that. If there’s traffic, you can’t change that. Which brings me back to my statement ‘No matter how much you complain, the issue will never be resolved’.
This also applies to the challenges you face when chasing your goals. For example, you worked all day and now you have to spend the night studying. Stop complaining about it, stop telling everyone and just do it. If you want to succeed you have to do things others aren’t willing to do. If you need to work 7 days a week in order for your business to take off, stop complaining about it, stop telling everyone and just do it.
Chasing your goals isn’t meant to be easy.
From now on, when you find yourself complaining about something, take note and instantly start working towards fixing the issue, as that is the only way you will overcome it.